My husband and I have been married for over 20 years and been together for 22. We have four kids and also work together. We have a very passionate relationship among the friendship that we have developed. We enjoy the idea of growing up together and learning along the way. We’ve laughed hard, fought hard, and played hard. Life is about the good and the bad, yet through it all, being committed to each other in such a way that we inspire passion and romance in others. This doesn’t put us in a better relationship that the two of you. On the contrary, the description of your relationship is much to be admired. I just cannot agree with the idea that date nights should be ignored, when embracing them on a regular basis can only spark a kindle that may have been dormant or ignite that flame that’s been building up all week. Just that evening where the two of us get to truly be alone, whether at a nice restaurant, sitting on a park bench, watching the sunset, or even putting the kids to bed and setting up a candle lit living room in front of the fireplace. Date nights aren’t about impressing your partner, or having to do something to get something in return. Date nights are about creating intimacy. Having that intimate time to just focus on each other. Not knowing whether or not is leads to sex, although, it almost always does because we’ve taken the time to communicate our desires with respect and generosity. We’ve had the chance to listen to each other on an intimate level. We’ve created a ‘space’ that invites making love, or being wild, or anything in-between. Date nights are a catalyst to passion, which is why I always recommend them.